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I found out last week that a client I’ve known for seven or more years is a Nobel Peace Prize winner. Ok, not technically a Nobel Laureate, but a founding member of the team that had been awarded the prize.
The next day, a friend of mine tells me about her friend, the recently awarded MBE who’s too embarrassed to talk about the honour.
And the day after, a client in a workshop neglects to tell us about her incredible career achievements, “because she’s not as educated as everyone else in her industry.”
The connection? All of these are female leaders and each of them mirrors a common trend many of us face.
Do any of these sound familiar to you?
“I don’t like to blow my own trumpet.”
“Yes I wrote a book (or won an award/saved someone’s life), but I just can’t help feeling like an impostor.”
“Sure, I’ve got a degree (subtext: a PhD from Cambridge), but I don’t know much about politics (or football, or whatever…), so I can’t really comment.”
“Oh, thanks (for the compliment on a piece of work), but it was a team effort. Gerry did most of the work.”
Is it just me, or are we surrounded by exceptional women, who are stubbornly unwilling to boast about it?
Here’s what I’ve observed about women:
And you know what? This makes me feel pretty mad. Because I want to know that my female friends and clients have Nobel Peace Prizes and PhDs and MBEs. Equally, I want to know if they haven’t done any of that, but that they’re really pleased with a report they wrote last week. Or that they’re proud to be having a killer hair day.
I want to hear my female friends and clients talk themselves up because it EXPANDS MY WORLD. It shows me what’s possible. It gives me something to celebrate. And, crucially, it gives me permission to be a little more courageous in talking about my own achievements.
I’ve learned a lot from the ladies I’m fortunate enough to be working with these days. Here’s some of their wisdom:
So, I’m learning that humility and ‘boasting’ can go hand in hand, if we only get the ego out of the way.
When ego is at play, everything is about you, so boasting only feels self-serving. But when you put the ego aside for a minute, you realise that it isn’t boasting at all. Held with grace and humour, ‘boasting’ helps others to know how to locate you, how to understand your back story. And it gives them permission to admire you.
And I for one love to admire people.
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The UK’s leading inspiring speaking expert & best-selling author. Sarah Lloyd-Hughes is a multiple-award winning public speaking coach, founder of Ginger Training & Coaching and author of “How to be Brilliant at Public Speaking” (Pearson).
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