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Nerves & Confidence

Male stereotypes in public speaking.
Nerves & Confidence
16th November 2016

Male stereotypes in public speaking

So a few weeks back I wrote about female empowerment through public speaking. Gender issues are barriers that can seem very real, mostly because of the way we've been conditioned to think by society. I had a lovely comment from Jutta on that post... while I was doing research for this blog post. Shouldn’t we rather talk about feminine and masculine behaviour instead of female and male behaviour? For example I know many men with confidence problems, and confident, extremely target oriented women who tend to neglect relationships. Jutta is right. Difficulties can't be necessarily tossed onto the lap of…
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Speaking the hard truths.
Nerves & Confidence
11th November 2016

Speaking the hard truths.

Gulp. You want to share something you strongly believe in. You have tons of empathy for your audience and don't want to offend them. But what you have to say is not exactly a popular opinion. You feel that it's important for the world to hear you (we think it's important too!). But how do you deal with it when your truth is unpopular or creates a massive emotional upheaval in your audience? ~ You get up on the stage and speak with power and purpose. You bring all of your passion, persuasion, charisma, and talent with you. You hit…
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How to control your legs when you speak
Nerves & Confidence
8th September 2016

Knocking knees: How to control your legs when you speak

I previous blog posts we've discussed eye contact, hand gestures, using props, how to get your energy tip-top, and much more. But we've never really talked about what to do with the lower half of your body, besides how to keep your knees from shaking. All kinds of strange things happen to our bodies when we're pumped up with adrenaline and feel pressured. It's all about awareness of your body and what it's doing at all times. Here are a few of the most common embarrassing things that can happen to your legs when you're nervous. When you've lost control…
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Energy levels in public speaking
Nerves & Confidence
25th August 2016

How to boost your public speaking energy

No matter what type of speech you have to give, any style of message will be more powerful with energy behind it. The E in VOICE is for Energy. Energy is the verbal 'oomph' or self-belief you deliver in your performance. It's the degree to which you're willing to 'stand up and be counted'. Your energy will be determined by many things: intonation, gaps and volume, but there is just something special that's added to the mix when you focus on your energy. Having energy as a speaker is all about being yourself but deliberately amplified (based on the audience…
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confidence
Nerves & Confidence
4th May 2016

Four steps to confident public speaking!

When we first start speaking it’s natural to ask the question “how can I become more confident at public speaking?” “How can I become fearless as a speaker?” When adrenaline gets into our body when we’re nervous it plays havoc with our abilities to act normally. We just want to be good enough, to get through our public speaking without showing the audience our nerves. Most public speakers stress and struggle about trying to “seem confident” and “look fearless”, irrespective of how they’re feeling inside. They often fall into the trap of pushing nerves away to show the audience a…
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Fear of public speaking
Nerves & Confidence
6th April 2016

Do people really fear public speaking more than death?

According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that seem right? That means to the average person, if you have to go to a funeral, you’re better off in the casket than doing the eulogy. Jerry Seinfeld Yes. You've probably seen and heard this quote a thousand times. It's probably run through every public speaking training circuit known to man. It does, however, aptly reflect the attitude towards public speaking. Although public speaking fear is widely touted as the number one fear of ALL TIME, the numbers can be…
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How to wake up your audience in the after lunch slot!
Nerves & Confidence
31st March 2016

Speaking in the after lunch slot: how to bring the graveyard shift back to life

The most dreaded time to speak - the 'after lunch slot', where tummies are full and minds are drifting. How do you capture the attention of your audience when their blood flow is diverted to digestion? How do you wake up folks after an hour spent checking social media? How do you bring the attention back to you and your message when all they want to do is rest their eyes? Apart from the ones who fall asleep, there are those who have stayed in the bar; gone outside for a smoke (with more and more smoking bans this is…
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Overcome the fear of being judged when you speak.
Nerves & Confidence
23rd March 2016

They’re looking at me funny! Overcome the fear of being judged when you speak.

  One of the top fears public speakers have is the fear of being judged by the audience. Those rolled eyes, bored sighs, or scrutinizing looks can feel like too much to take, when public speaking is already nerve-wracking. Whilst it’s terrifying to think of yourself standing in front of a group of people who are mentally channeling their inner powder haired judge, there are tried and tested ways to overcome the fear of being judged when you speak. First things first, you're probable doing something right. It’s normal and healthy to think about the audience’s perception of you and…
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work your quirk
Nerves & Confidence
16th March 2016

Work your quirk: how personality pays in public speaking

When developing your public speaking skills, it’s really useful to understand your strengths as it helps you to grow into greater confidence and impact.  Do you believe that you have to show the 'serious' side of your personality - or that people won't take you seriously if you smile? I can't tell you how often I see serious and dull (they seem to go together) presenters. If you’re anything like I used to be, you’ll believe that to be good at public speaking you must… - Change your personality - Manipulate people - Play hard-ball like a hard-nosed hard-person -…
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How to deliver a negative speech without being hated
Nerves & Confidence
9th March 2016

How to deliver a negative speech without being hated

You have to do it. Be the bearer of bad news. The phrase 'Don't Shoot The Messenger' comes to mind and you're wondering where you put your flak jacket. Whether it's a project being cancelled, upcoming layoffs, big company changes, or even talking about a topic that makes everyone uncomfortable... sometimes we have to be the 'bad guy'. At these times especially, speakers want to “look fearless” and stay in control, irrespective of how they’re feeling inside. They often fall into the trap of pushing nerves away and being 'hard' to bring the bad news in a way that screams…
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